Improve your relationships in under 90 days by reducing anxiety and increasing happiness,

and without spending hours in therapy!



Welcome to Wellbeing Performance. 

The portal for busy, driven men who want to improve their relationships.

Learn how to get a hold on your thoughts and feelings so that you can be happier!



My name is Alex. I am a clinically trained psychologist helping busy, driven men

improve their relationships in under 90 days by reducing anxiety and increasing happiness,

and without spending hours in therapy!



 Let's master your mindset so you can feel happier.


I’ve had much anxiety over what will/could happen; and whether I’m saying/doing the right things.

Now, instead, I feel I can replace all of that with just being confident that I am being true to my heart.

I have carried away a sense that I am a decent person and I am confident, and sensitive. And it’s far better to be these things openly and honestly, and be confident that I’ll bring the right people into my life by being so.

I am very grateful for Alex’s help. 

Andrew Online Copywriter, World Traveller.

“I really enjoyed working with Alexandra and found her sessions rewarding and beneficial; helping me to better balance my working-life and relaxation.”

Dan Marketing Consultant, Exeter

“I worked with Alex whilst pursuing my start-up venture full time. Alex allowed me to access my subconscious. As a result, my stress reduced and decision making improved. This has been a big part of my success.”

Zav Sima CEO/Founder/Owner at ALOKI

“I found Alexandra’s session helped me gain clarity over how exercise affects my wellbeing; in particular, the different benefits each exercise offers, how their timing could optimise my mood and performance, and most importantly, how I can fit them in.”

David Technology Executive, UK



My Story

My name is Alexandra Harper. Since 2005 I’ve trained and worked in psychology.

Having worked with 90% men since 2011, I’ve learned about the pressures placed on men to be quiet about their feelings and appear “strong”. I learned this leads to difficulties in identifying, labelling and processing emotions. Emotions which, ironically, lead to unprocessed emotions making life that much more of a struggle. 

Even with psychological help, many of these men struggled to maintain good mental health - suffering from acute and chronic stress, anxiety and depression.

Then, I became aware of a missing link in psychological therapies.

I observed the importance exercise played in managing and maintaining an optimal mindset.

Serving as an effective tool for managing emotions like anger, anxiety and hopelessness; exercise was being applied to PTSD in veterans, and anxiety in ADHD. But it wasn’t being applied to anxiety and depression in the general population.

So, I left work to complete an MSc in sport and exercise psychology in order to apply this emerging knowledge to helping men with their mental resilience. 

Using the bridge between sport and psychology I began helping men to explore and optimise their emotional states. 

Applying and utilising principles used by top athletes, I helped men working in demanding, business settings to manage and capitalize on emotional experiences.

Paired with an in depth understanding of the effect of historical emotional patterns on present day emotional experiences, this allowed me to support men to access, assess and alter previously troublesome thought patterns and emotional experiences so that they could express themselves effectively and feel more happiness in their day to day lives. 

I now work holistically, that is, I support  clients to ensure they consider all life factors, including exercise, when addressing their mental resilience and mental health.


What happened without support?

Before working with me, clients had been:

— on a downward spiral, 

— not understanding or expressing their emotions, 

— emotionally eating and drinking

— feeling demotivated at work

— arguing with loved ones.

What happened with support? 

After applying the principles I teach, clients have:

— increased their happiness

— experienced increased motivation, and peace of mind, and

— improved: 

      — relationships,  

      — decision making, and 

      — sleep.  

My Mission

My mission is to create and deliver frameworks, trainings and 1:1 programmes which will allow all men to increase happiness in this way —  both by learning to effectively capitalize on emotional states and by moving past historical, unprocessed emotional challenges which otherwise undermine their happiness and goal attainment.  

The FB Group

If you are ready to build a strong mindset which will protect you from mental health issues, allow you to develop mental fortitude, and support you in your goal attainment, join the FB group where I can answer questions and let you know about upcoming, free training.

Working 1:1

If you’d like to get to work right away, book in for an initial 30 minute consultation where we can explore your current situation. 

We’ll identify the best next steps for improving your happiness and goal attainment, and developing long term mental resilience. 




Wellbeing Performance packages focus on improving emotions and relationships.

You can improve your mood and relationships by achieving crucial, long-term goals relating to:



Identify and overcome thought processes which repeatedly undermine your ability to maintain healthy and satisfying relationships.


Identify the mental habits which are limiting your ability to attain an efficient, rewarding and successful work life balance.


Maintain your ideal weight by uncovering and overcoming the psychological patterns which are undermining your weight management.


Is this service for me?

This is the place for you if you are:

— open to self-reflection

— motivated/have a desire to change

— willing to put in some work.


Ideally, you will be keen to use assessments and scales to monitor your progress, and you will be aware of how psychology works i.e. you’re aware I cannot give you all the answers and I can give you the time, space and expertise to create change in your life and your future.  


You can work with me on a 1:1 basis to:

- identify your goals

- explore your current mindset and limiting beliefs, and

- learn methods to tackle those limiting beliefs in order to feel happier.


What Next?

If you’ve noticed an emotional or behavioural pattern in day to day life which you’d like to change long term, this would require a minimum of 6-10 sessions. We can clarify which might be best in an initial 90 minute session. 


If you have a minor issue which you want to discuss as a one off, I provide a 60 or 90 minute session.


If you are unsure which session type best suits your needs, we can have an initial, free, 30 minute chat to clarify which option is best.

Select and book your 30, 60 or 90 minute session...

Qualifications and Membership

BSc Psychology

MSc Sport and Exercise Psychology

BTEC Level 2 Counselling

Member of the British Psychological Society



MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction)



I have a breadth of knowledge which can be applied to your goals of self-exploration and self-actualisation, attained from an MSc in Sport and Exercise Psychology, BSc in Psychology and BTEC in Counselling Psychology. You can be assured I will always work with professionalism and integrity because I work in accordance with the professional conduct guidelines by the British Psychological Society, of whom I am a member. I take a holistic approach to monitoring the mind and body, influenced by my knowledge in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR).






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